di·lem·madiˈlemə,dīˈlemənounnoun: dilemma; plural noun: dilemma
a situation in which a difficult choice has to be made between two or more alternatives, especially equally undesirable ones.
I was once told that a real dilemma is deciding which way to face when sleeping in between a hot girl and a gay man...
"Hi! you must be X's housemate, I am his girlfriend!" -- That conversation should not elicit awkwardness or anxiety but it did. I am being sandwich in between doing what is right and moving out. And so I did what I always do -- I told the truth.
I remember breaking the news to a friend that her boyfriend was a) cheating on her, b) sharing intimate details of their relationship with everyone. Her face frozen with shock and disbelieve, and the pain that ensues. I was never blamed for any of it. But I always wonder if there was a better way to do it. And here I am, almost 10 years later being put in the same situation again.
Men, if you want to cheat, don't brag about it. Face with the choice of either lying by omission for you or honoring my values, my values will always come out on top. I can't go to bed or live my life knowing I could have help a fellow sister. Everyone have different moral beliefs and mine, well those are just mine.
I told the poor girl what I thought was happening and it seems that she choose to believe the late night lady guest is nothing but a "friend". If she thought otherwise, she definitely did not tell me. I didn't tell her all the gory details as I don't see a point.
It's not my decision whether someone wants to stick with a cheater, it's their choice. But I can go to bed with a peace of mind knowing that I've done the right thing. If I have to move again because I was trying to spare another girl some heartbreak, I guess I'll have to deal with it.
You don't expect your friends to sit there and be okay with it if you share a story about murdering someone, so don't expect me to be okay with it when you tell me you're going to break up with someone after they fly all the way from another continent while secretly cheating on them. I know it isn't a fair comparison but if I compromise my values, then what else do I have left to stand on?
It's not fair to put me in a situation where I have to choose between my values and your privacy and for you to blame me when I choose to stand by those values. I can't compromise "me" because you made a poor decision.
